Dear Blackman,
My husband passed away a few years ago. I have been by myself since then. Some of my friends are trying to convince me to start getting in the dating circuit again. I miss having companionship in my life. I think about it sometimes but then I feel guilty because I feel like I would be cheating or just not living right. What do you think I should do?
-Carmella
The Blackman:
Hi Carmella,
I know you must be in a tough place. Some people have a really tough time about this because they don’t want to feel like they are cheating and also don’t want other people to think badly of them as well. Like with anything you do in life you have to be ready to make that move. Don’t worry about what your friends want you to do, you have to be ready and willing to do what you want to do. In true love you want a person you are with to be happy so your husband is with you in spirit and surely wants you to be happy.
Remember when you took your wedding vows it said ” until death do us part” so you don’t have to feel guilty about you thinking you’ll be cheating because you won’t be. If you decide to date, you would not be doing anything wrong. You just have to make sure you do what is right for you. If you have any children and you do decide to date, make sure you have a conversation about it with them so they are not affected in a negative way.
Do what feels right for you and what will make you happy.
Good luck.
TBM
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