Comments on: Black Women Are Looking For Their “Barack”

By: thesymbol

thesymbol — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 00:51:43 +0000

Pop Quiz – R U Good 4 an IBM (Ideal Black Man)?

1. What is most valuable to you in life?
2. What do you have to offer an IBM that’s unique and meaningful?
3. What positive Black Male role models have you had in your life?
4. If your relationships with Black Men have been negative thus far, what – if any – responsibility do you accept in those failed relationships?

I am often asked how to find good companions and the bottom line is this: look in the mirror. Birds of a Feather flock together. Good Brothas ain’t got time for clubbin – unless its on the Golf Course.

Sistas! Elevate & self-educate. Disassociate from any reprobate. Eliminate all of your self hate. Appreciate what is yours innate. Appropriate your Higher State. And be The Mate not The Date.
All that is good…
Is worth the Wait!

By: game-tight

game-tight — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 23:43:45 +0000

see ladymizvee is as right as you can get. i see that most woman looking for that mr. right or obama as yall saying it now but miss out on a key detail. maybe you doing something wrong since you aint found mr. right. 4real stop blaming men on why you always messing wit the wrong person. sounds like you doing something wrong personally. i think kat williams said it best. if you 25 and still complaining that niggas aint shit then it must mean that you a aint shit woman. lets just be real. not to talk down to any of my beautiful black sisters.
and for the one that said black men leave black women once they get on, understand this, if you wasnt there, i mean really there when he was tryna become successful then what makes you think he gone keep you around when he get on. just because you was there since the beginning dont mean anything if all you did was complain about the situation when yall didnt have a dime.
and lastly, most black men run with different women of different races is because it seems as though black women have a complex to the word submission. now i can hear all yall tripping now but its the truth. the first lady got obama cuz she doesnt mind letting her man be the man. point blank period. its a mentality that stems back though. you was raised by a single black woman so all your life she taught you to not depend on a nigga for shit. and that way of thinking is what drove black women to think that if a black man aint got everything then we have nothing.
you cant find something real if you aint real yoself. aint no one perfect and love aint about what you like about a person, your love is judged on the fact that you wanna be with him after all his flaws. lets be real ladies

By: ladymizvee

ladymizvee — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 14:17:22 +0000

This is funny. I did have one friend, now separated from her husband, saying she wanted her “Barack.” And she may find him. But no, I’m not hearing a bunch of sistas talking about finding their “Barack.” And even if they were, they gotta remember one thing…to get a Barack, they’ve gotta be a Michelle.

By: Jauharah

Jauharah — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 10:36:50 +0000

Many have said that black women should be looking for a good man period. This applies to all races of women who ultimately want the same thing; a good man who is a good provider and has an even temper and isn’t an embarassment in public. Someone who will make her feel like royality because his loyalty is to her. I think Barack and Michelle are not the norm in the black relationship. I say this because they are both intelligent and successful in their individual right. Whereas a black woman cannot co-exist with a black man if she has more education and intelligence because the black male ego is too fragile to permit “his woman” to outdo him. A successful black man generally thinks he’s too good for a black woman and so pursues white or asian (read Chinese; Korean; Japanese etc) especially if these women “worship the ground he walks on”.

I never thought I’d find my match; but I did and he’s no black boy/man. I realized long ago that happiness was not going to be found with one nor would my heart truly be able to love a black man simply because the ones that passed through my life weren’t worthy of me (and from what I’ve seen they now realize the error of their ways and are dying inside because I want nothing to do with them).

By: wundawuman

wundawuman — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 23:15:57 +0000

Black women need to be more open minded and also look at men of other races who also have love for us. Hey Barack is biracial. lol. Our men do it without a second thought. Black men dont compromise when they are looking for a woman so why should you? There are many great hardworking honest black men out there but you have to love yourself enough to give them a chance and leave the dogs alone. Im out.

By: OR_EI

OR_EI — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 19:43:42 +0000

P.S

Manipulation is not a quality I readily seek in a companion.

By: OR_EI

OR_EI — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 19:42:35 +0000

*SIGH…. Were here but some light really needs to be shed on what MICHELLE is doing as a black woman to be all she can be for her “Barack” I’m sure a high percentage is lacking and dont have the energy to uphold or maintain her standards. The faith, love and support she offers would surely make any man want to be all he can be for her and his family. We are here ladies just stop waiting for ‘Barack” to become successful and get on board while the potential is burning within our hearts. Will the real Mrs. OBAMA pllease stand up!!!

By: LuvBeauti

LuvBeauti — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 19:10:08 +0000

My slogan is….”If you can’t love me like President Barack love Ms. Michelle…than we not gone make it lol”…they are just a beautiful couple!!

By: Sub-Negro

Sub-Negro — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 17:54:00 +0000

I AIN’T SAYIN SHE A GOLD DIGGA, BUT SHE AINT MESSIN WITH NO BROKE N!GG@!

By: FeetandToes1

FeetandToes1 — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 17:17:33 +0000

Black women looking for their Barack that shit is funny.Black women have to first learn themselves and love themselves before a Barack comes along.What man wants a woman who trys to be controlling.And i know not all of you all do it but it is a lot of you all who do.

By: FlaBredTxRaised

FlaBredTxRaised — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 17:07:59 +0000

There are alot of Barak Obamas out there ladies but only one can be president every four years and Michelle already has the original one. He may be your garbage man, postal worker, lawn care service owner but youll never know because you still think the only way a black man can be successful is if he leaves for work every morning in a suit and tie. Thats not OUR REALITY so OPEN YOUR EYES to the REAL WORLD of TODAYS BLACK MAN!

By: Kountry_Mayne

Kountry_Mayne — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 16:29:24 +0000

Iver seen that shit written on some females page before that she was looking for her barack lol i was like this chick get even wear decent clothes and talkin bout she want a barack obama lmfaoo. half them females aint got a bit of sense.

By: flirtydiva777

flirtydiva777 — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 16:27:07 +0000

I have never heard no one say they were looking for a “Barack” either….all I hear is a woman saying she is looking for a decent guy….

By: espoir2010

espoir2010 — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 15:22:51 +0000

and most of africans want to know the origin of the first lady some of them said she is a senegalese and others can you give the rifht direction

By: ARIES_NOVA

ARIES_NOVA — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 13:23:01 +0000

The funny thing is that men and women let themselves get fired up about articles like this that are suppose to speak for one group or another…. It’s entertainment…works to sell a publication.

The Obama’s are a cash cow pure and simple and before his term is over he will be back talked just like anyone else. Women looking for a Barak…funny. I can’t name one female that I’ve heard make such a claim. Nothing has changes about the needs/requirements are a black women when it comes to looking for their black partner.

By: DMY19151

DMY19151 — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 12:38:18 +0000

SHIT….THE WOMAN HAS TO BE A MICHELLE TO GET A BARACK…AND A LOT OF THESE BLACK WOMEN TODAY WANT MICHELLE INSTEAD OF BARACK ANYWAY….LOL…KEEP IT 100

By: Sketch-of-Bmore

Sketch-of-Bmore — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 10:42:06 +0000

Ramses_NY hit it right on the nose with that comment, nowadays some if not most women are looking for the thuggish types, if a good man comes through its too easy for them so they like a pointless challenge of chasing a nigga that don’t care about them…Barack worked hard for what he got and Michelle stood by his side THROUGH IT ALL….now that I think about for the DECENT BLACK MEN in the world The Urban Daily should write and article called

“Black Men Are Looking For Their “Michelle”

oh wait a sec if that article were to be posted women would do what decent are doing in topic….speaking our minds…

most women would just protest about how most guys aren’t good etc.

This will just be an ongoing cycle….FOREVER.

By: shindogg

shindogg — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 09:24:32 +0000

well i hate ta say it, but it got alot ta do wit sistaz alwayz wantin a black man. start wantin a man period an maybe ya odds of findin da “ideal man” (IM lol) will change. i aint sayin dere sumpin wrong wit bruthaz, im sayin sistaz jus b puttin 2 much emphasis on “black”. ya dont needa find a barack. derez only 1 and hes happily married. men dont go around sayin “im lookin fo my michelle” or “where all da good michelles at?” datz how stupid dis buzzword shit iz.

By: gin21

gin21 — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 09:12:56 +0000

I hate to read articles like this because, the women who are doing all of the complaining are the same ones who are making the bad ass choices with the men that they choose, or should I say the males that they choose. They never select the men that they need, but what the hell they want, and the choice is no where near a good man, because the majority of them don’t know what a good man is? And since they don’t know, they need to find out first before they give a male the ultimate opportunity at their heart, love, integrity, and especially their bodies!

By: intelligenthustler

intelligenthustler — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 08:27:23 +0000

It truly amazes me the crap that I’m reading on here. It’s pathetic that it had to take Barack Obama becoming president for black people to suddenly value what a traditional relationship between two black people is supposed to look like. Don’t you guys have parents? A mother and a father? Why on earth would you want to emulate yourself after someone who’s famous that you don’t know? You people sit here and act as if you know what goes on between the president and his wife. And there are a lot of decent, hardworking, god fearing black men out here, but black women don’t want those type of guys because they’re not rich and flashy. How can black women look towards another man for what their ideal mate is supposed to look like that’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. It’s no wonder so many black females are single.

By: Chocolate-Huni

Chocolate-Huni — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 07:49:33 +0000

By: IWalkAlone247

IWalkAlone247 — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 07:02:05 +0000

@privatejetambitions –

Ya damn straight!

Because I’m tired of hearing chicks bitch and complain about dumb shit they THINK they deserve only AFTER they fuck around and get what they ask for out of these little cornballs calling themeselves thugs…

And like I said, let a guy walk around saying he wants himself a Beyonce, or a Serena, and you broads will jump all up and down his ass for being sexist and everything else in the book. So believe me, EVERY GUY is tired of hearing you chick yap about the type of guy you see some chick on TV with, who just so happens to have money, power, or something financial and you think that’s what YOU deserve when you, yourselves bring NOTHING to the table except a fucking big flapping ass beak…and you WONDER why 70 some-odd percent of black chicks are single? If you think I’m the ONLY GUY who knows this, you’d better ask around. I’m probably the only one who is tired of smiling for the cameras and who’s not araid to call a spade a spade.

Now, granted, guys DO walk around running off at the beak talking about we want ourselves a specific type of chick…but we don’t, in any way shape or FORM, take it to the extremes as you chicks do. I mean, chicks get to the point where you turn your noses up at dudes who aren’t even paying you any attention on the street just because he’s not your little 50 cen, or Jay Z, or in this case, your Barack.

So yeah, you broads DO turn my damn stomach when you start on your bullshit…and yes it IS pathetic. Because instead of settling for just that one guy who treats you like a damn GODDESS and loves you for who you are, your dumb asses want a fucking IMAGE YOU SEE ON TV, and you think THAT’S what your future husband is SUPPOSED to be….NEVER ONCE thinking to yourselves that the same IMAGE you drool over might not want YOU…

By: Anthony538

Anthony538 — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 06:23:56 +0000

Well if there wasn’t so many “baby mama’s”, before the age of 30…maybe they could find a guy like that…..Men don’t like baggage….

By: bigj97216

bigj97216 — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 06:14:43 +0000

After reading the whole story, I have to agree with the article, the writer makes many valid points. I also agree with some of the intelligent grown up comments. I don’t think the piece was a hit on “good” Black men, it was expressing the exasperation’s Black women face in finding a suitable mate. I would say most women don’t want a thug, and I’m speaking of women not just in chronological age, but mentally,spiritually as well. also,.

By: It_Iz_What_It_Iz

It_Iz_What_It_Iz — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 06:02:58 +0000

Our black women can romanticize about a “Barack” type brotha all they want and I don’t blame them, he’s someone young black men and all black men can look up to. But undertstand that there’s a responsibility in owning up to being that “Barack” type brotha’s counterpart. Just using Michelle as a template, she’s college educated, doesn’t have children out of wedlock, she’s not a “baby’s mama” but appears to be a great mother to her children, she’s God fearing, she takes care of her temple(doesn’t smoke and manages to keep a nice figure as a 40 plus year old woman) and she obviously was willing to make sacrifices so Barack could get where he is today. The preponderance of black women who posess those attributes and credentials to those who don’t is huge and that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Some sistas out there haven’t found a Barack because they don’t derserve one in accordance to what they bring to the table, it’s nothing personal nor is ending up with a Barack some noble birth right. You think Barack would’ve settled for any woman less than Michelle?

This Barack type brotha probably isn’t at the club or bar shaking his ass but maybe he’s in the church strengthening his bond with God or maybe he’s at the campus library feeding his brain with knowldege or maybe some sistas had him in their grasp but instead over looked him because his “type” wasn’t trendy at the time but he’s definitely out there.

By: Nitedman

Nitedman — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 06:02:03 +0000

Will some black women know when they’ve found their BARACK ?

By: d6j8

d6j8 — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 05:50:45 +0000

God only made one Barrack Obama . You dont appreciate what is given by God . Surely it will be taken away .

By: Peninsulachick

Peninsulachick — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 04:45:47 +0000

Finally, the table is turning; black women are allowed to speak about the FAILINGS of black men, and the fact that we all do NOT want a “thug”. There are a plethora of black women desirous of a mate who doesn’t expect her to “prove” her worth as a mate by allowing herself to be used as a footstool. We want the same things our non-black counterparts have; men who respect and take it as their MANLY duty to treat his woman like the prize that she is, and not his possession, or his mother. Instead, we want to be adored protected, and accepted as a standard of beauty and feminity. I love the way our President interacts with his wife; he models the very traits and characteristics we women have all but given up on experiencing.

By: wincie

wincie — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 04:41:27 +0000

privatejet is absolutely right theirs nothing wrong with women wanting a man who symbolizes barack. He’s nice looking, he’s driven, has goals, and he’s intelligent. Whats wrong with that? Why should anyone men or women settle for something just for the sake of having someone.

By: shortandsweet1960

shortandsweet1960 — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 04:04:38 +0000

Well now of days its hard to find a barack because black men want women to take care of them. Men do not want to make a comememint anymore what happen to dating a women and getting to know each other first become friends b 4 lover not the other way around.