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well hit me on my email whitegold_us@yahoo.com im single 31 no kids an im a young professional male also

First, don’t forget to be a woman. By this, I refer to how many successful women have become well versed in professionalism and demanding the respect befitting a lady. However, it’s equally important to be feminine, and in some cases, somewhat vulnerable. Men have a need to feel purposeful and needed. Think about it. How does one impress a woman who either has everything or can do every thing for herself?

Second, nobody’s perfect, especially you. I’m not trying to insult you, but sometimes ego can be a huge barrier in the way of a man having a chance to genuinely accept you and love you for who you really are after all the makeup comes off and you slide off the pumps. It takes pride to accomplish what you have, but it takes an open heart to get a relationship started on the right path.

Third, don’t be afraid. Heartaches afflict us all. Don’t let your’s stop you from taking small chances to get to know someone for who they are, which leads me to number four.

Fourth, take the time to explore a man for who he is, and not for who you want him to be. You’ve had over thirty years to dream of a man who you created in your head to sweep you off your feet and carry you into the proverbial sunset. Your Mr.Right may have some, maybe a lot of catching up to do. All in all, you want to find a man who loves you fully, in spite of yourself sometimes.

Fifth, and most importantly, stay local. Forget about internet or long distance relationships. There are just hard, disingenuine, and generally hard to gauge. Stick to local places where men who share your interests congregate. For example, if you want a saved man, go to a church function. If you want an intellectual man, attend a conference or visit a library/university. Good men are like cheap cereal, you can find them everywhere, but you may not always like the boxes.

I’m single, 34, no kids, 6’5, bald head, athletic build. Antpac2@yahoo.com

have faith and believe that you deserve a good man.God will bless you with one when less expect it.

It was a black woman who told me years ago that, “There are 3 groups of individuals a black man will ALWAYS have a hard time trying to converse with…conservative white males, educated black women, and fools. HE’s too blinded by his ideologies, SHE’S too blinded by her success, and the FOOL is just blind.” That woman was my mother. The point is is that if you have all that going for you, then the reason for your lack of a mate is usually no farther than the nearest mirror, be cause Lord knows black women are the most judgemental individuals in America.

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the problem career women have is that while they want love they never have time for it, an man shouldnt have to “get in where he fits in”..if they want love they have to make time for it cause it does no good to moan and complain about not havin a soulmate or hubby, but what good would it do if you met one, cause they wouldnt have the time to give to him anyway

I feel like she has to change her way of thinking. She thinking idealistically, not realistically. My momma has a career and she married older in life and still is married now for 26 yrs. and counting. There’s no such thing as soulmates and the pefect marriage/family life. She’ll be fine if she’s changes her mentality and stop worrying so much also. Because the more she stresses over this situation, the more likely it will never happen for her.