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Am I Selfish For Wanting An Open Relationship?

Written by Ask The Black Man on September 2, 2009 8:26 am

url1Dear Blackman,

Am I being selfish for wanting to have an open relationship with my husband of 15 years?

-Double A

The Blackman:

Hi Double A,

I don’t think that you are being selfish. It appears that you want to get some “fresh air” for better use of terms. Have you discussed this with your husband yet? If not, I would really look into why you really feel this way and make sure this is something that you really want to do. I say this because if you discuss this with your husband and whether he agrees or disagrees it could possibly be detrimental to your marriage. If he gets angry  it could cause a strain. Also, it is important to make sure you will be able accept the fact of him being with other women if he chooses to do so. In some instances, the person in the relationship that lobbies for an open relationship winds up getting hurt by it because they get jealous of their mate being with someone else.

Take some time to really consider this before moving forward with it.

That’s my 99 Cents Worth.

Good Luck.

TBM

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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Lostking7/ Lostking7

    I think u r being selfish but if thats what u want just be sure that ur ready for ur marriage to fail! Its not gonna work! Let ur husband know exactly how u feel and start making preparations to move on and let him move on and find another nice lady who’s gonna love him, and only him unconditionally…may peace be unto u!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/sweeteze2/ sweeteze2

    If you love your partner (husband, wife) don’t do this. This will destroy all trust on both parts. Become adventureous between the two of you. Dress up, pretend, or something! Let it go!!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/mac420one/ mac420one

    Open marriage is NOT a bad idea. Tommorrow will make ten years in my marriage. However, this is something that needs to be discussed at the beggining of the marriage – not after 15 years. I’ll bet that both of you DON’t feel this way.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/raven98030/ raven98030

    I am sure you all ready know this you need to discussed this with your husband something that can hurt in the long run why would you want to do this after 15 years of marriage.If things is not working out you need to tell him give him time to make things right.no you are not being Selfish you being Selfish center the universe revolve around you.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jazzwatch/ jazzwatch

    Open relationship is NOT cool, because of one or the other will get into STD, HIV or have a child,,,think about it!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/distantlover19/ distantlover19

    HELL YEAH YOU SELF FISH S**T FOR WANTING AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP JUST BREAK UP WITH HIM IF YOU WANT SOMEBODY ELSE THESE HOES AND THESE DIRTY SELF FISH GAME THEY PLAY TO ALL MY NIGGAZ GET THIS MONEY AND DOG THESE HOES

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