hell no. until she realize she is the woman in the relationship she will never find happiness. i am just saying it have to be a chain command. god,man, woman.so be it.

Success should never be the end all be all within a relationship..If BOTH parties are confident in who they are and what they have achieved so far, then COMMUNICATION should be the factor..not success

why should a man be threatened by how much money his woman makes? maybe with older generations of men but its fine with me my girl is an Accountant im still in school and only work part time now but our relationship is fine! Hey the more money SHE makes the more money WE make lol money aint every thing but I dont mind a sucessful woman that can hold her own and dont mind spending some of that change on a good man! its a new day and age now

I don’t need a man to take care of me so financially we don’t really need to be on the same page as far as money is concerned, I just need him to take care of his business, prove to me that I’m involved with an ambitious and responsible man. If your relationship is based on financial success you may want to reevaluate your situation.

lmao, this is a stupid article. them b*tches who are “successful” think they can be the man of the relationship, that’s why they should stay single.

successful b***h dont loook for succesful men they loook for weak niggas they can control most of them are full of them selfs, oh and the attitude is overwhelming im not your son b***h

succesful women are full of thereselfs dont give a untamed b***h success or power

I keep trying to tell these women, IF A MAN IS SUCCESSFUL… HE DON’T WANT YOU!

Every black man that is successful and did it on his own don’t need a woman, women become playthings at that point. That’s why we GET women, TO HELP US BUILD!

If we can build it without you, we simply don’t need you. If you can do BAD all by yourself… we can do GOOD all by ourselves!

Quit being so selfish and wanting something for nothing! Help a man become successful and you can share in the joy when a brotha’ get’s the check/oppritunity/promotion!

When Michele met Barack, he’s was brokedown and struggling. Try sticking it out and being encouraging/influential/helpful.

Can a successful woman not walk around with a f**ked attitude and look down at a successful blue collar man just because she got her lil education and a white color job? Do a successful woman even know what a successful good man look like or do she judge him by his career and bank account? That’s what people should be asking instead. Hell I got the education and I had the occupation until I got downsized… **sigh** but I never looked down at a man who didn’t go to college or didn’t have a white collar job. Of course I’d ask him why he decided not to go to college but I ask that of everybody because I’m inquisitive like that. Still I would rather have me a plumber, electrician or garbage man with a good heart and a nice attitude than some fake ass wanna be working his sorry ass white collar job and thinking he the s**t! Matter fact I’m scheming on a blue collar guy right now with his cute ass… he’s nice also, LOL!!

Stan_Vinyl is absolutely right. Once a man is successful, he can have pretty much any woman he wants. The successful women are too b*tchy for them, so they find a woman that needs to be taken care of.

Mamacita101, “Still I would rather have me a plumber, electrician or garbage man with a good heart and a nice attitude.” WELL SAID!

CO-SIGN! Only the insecure, stuck up, selfish women of the world HAVE to have those ‘white collar’ guys to ‘match wits and bank accounts’. I currently have the BEST conversations and get along perfectly with a man who is in the military. He never brags, boasts or pines after a college degree even though I went. Big deal who cares, im no more smarter than he is, college is JUST a piece of paper.

FYI: To the men, every successful black woman is NOT pining for some 10 year graduate school top attorney even if she did go to college as well. Some of us do want personality, character, communication and common interests ABOVE check books!

I_AM_BACK_4_MORE, WRONG! Successful men do not look for women they have to take care of or need taking care of. Successful MEN, (key word MEN not jerks), typically do want a woman who is ‘on the level’ mentally if nothing else. Think about it..when you supposedly have everything materialistically, what do you then want to seal the deal? Someone who can stimulate you mentally…(Again I reiterate…Im talking about REAL MEN).

Well said Cali…Co-SIGN

Who wants dead weight?

That aint dead weight. If you with a person who pay their bills, don’t ask you for money, faithful, take care of the kids, give you all the attention you can ask for and treat you like royality, why should it matter how much money they make?

If black women were looking for their black equivalents, they’d be happy, but instead they’re too busy trying to look BETTER than other people. That is the mistake successful black women make over and over, from my observation. I think 9 out of 10 of them pick the lame dudes so that the females’ egos can feel better, knowing that they certainly are better than THAT man they picked. They don’t want to get a smart man who will make her have to step her game up. That’s what women try to avoid, someone who makes YOU have to come correct, after you’ve been doing nothing but complaining about how men suck. If you’re looking for the cute, blue collar worker, hey he is threatened every day by you- but that’s who you’re hooking up with, if it’s not a white man. The problem is these women aren’t trying to go for equally successful men of their own races, or we’d all be happy and it would be easy to find each other. That man is NEVER good enough for black women, who feel they’re the bomb. I see them going right for white men instead, believing the propaganda that there are no good black men, all are gays, in jail, blah blah blah. Maybe, just maybe, you birds are boring, don’t have what it takes to attract a real man, and are unapproachable. Me, personally, I’m tired of a chick coming with her Ready-cannned Resume when I meet her. I have that and more, who cares? Who gives a sh1t what you accomplished, that’s nice, but that has nothing to do with me. Women who “made it” can’t seem to realize this, and just like the idiot who women avoided because he bragged about how he graduated from this and has this job and that assets… women have become that same annoying dude, themselves! The less LADY LIKE you are, the less wanted you will be by people who want a HUMAN by their sides. We came up living with great women who were our grandmoms and moms, who did it ALL, and you people aren’t even doing half of that, yet want double the credit. You reject forms of the ladies of the past, and thus you don’t appeal to real dudes anymore. Most of you are trying too hard to be WHITE WOMEN, and at that point, that black dude should just go get the real thing, not the imitation. Plus, successful women keep making up excuses like “he’s too geeky”. A smart black dude is never good enough for successful black women, unless he looks hollywood and has his success. Too much fantasy for you birds, need to get back to your roots and reality. My two cents, after dating MANY successful black women, I can honestly say I know the score and have never felt threatened, never not liked their talk even if we didn’t agree, but ALWAYS hated their personalities.

for me its the opposite some how i found go with theses ghetto nothing goin for them selfs but dont want advice because they think they are grown but with nothing goin for themselfs. so i hope ill find a successful female period black or white.

LOVE should be the factor in ANY relationship; when you say I got more than you, or I’m better looking thab you. or I want a finnancially secure man, or I want a man who can match me with or exceed my income, then they’re settling for a one thing that money cannot buy and that is FAILURE……….

Real_bumbleclot, Thank you ever so much bruh…well said..

odoggz/mayhem187, If you keep finding yourself with those types of women then you should CHECK YOURSELVES for attracting and falling for it…
You two need to go on and find your white women…Judging by your absolute ANGER in regards to black women its clear that you dont want ‘us’ and we damn sure dont want you angry, non sequitor, belittling black men as well. We want black men who can walk into a relationship with a POSITIVE outlook as opposed to your automatic negativity. How can you ever expect success with a black woman when your minds are already set for failure? Just a little note to both of you, maybe, just MAYBE all black women are not what you say they are…How about YOU TWO just picked and SETTLED for the worst of the worst which by the way exists in EVERY race. Neither one of you should even be interested in dating or finding one woman to deal with and harboring all the issues about black women that you do..(Yeah, it is that OBVIOUS).

FIRST OF ALL THE RELATIONSHIP MUST BE EVENLY YOKE… FOR IT TO WORK… OTHERWISE YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE PROBLEMS…

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califemme23 u have no idea wat u are talkin about cuz i dont go into a relationship thinkin neg. i dont kno where u got that idea from n i have a feeling u are the type ghetto b***hes i was talkin about.

mayhem187, LMAO…I REST MY CASE! You responded EXACTLY how I figured you would, instead of making a point or rebuttel, you resorted to the usual name calling, NEGATIVITY and ANGER babe….Like I said before, Don’t sleep too heavy cuz you’re liable to miss the white woman train, I think it’s picking angry nyggas up right about now….

mayhem187, My bad, forget my previous posts in regard to you…I just checked your page and you are ONLY 20 years old..Lots of learning left to do yet about yourself as well as women…no harm no foul and my apologies..

LOL- these comments.

You can tell a few folks aren’t very confident..
Success has nothing to do with one’s education or career. Success is a state of mind and well being. People who are happy and content with themselves they wouldn’t have a problem with someone who is the same.

What folks need to be concern with is the Toxic people.. The angry ones with tons of baggage. And their need to repress someone elses happiness!

wouldnt a successful womban be an ASSET since shes bringing more to the table than whats between her legs????

fnyclightskin i totally agree with you. After reading some of the comments I realize that people really don’t know what it takes to have a successful relationship. You can be successful as long as you are comfortable with yourself and who you are you are successful…strive, determination to do better and become a better person also defines being successful. The media makes it seem that being successful you need to have the money and the education etc…but when you leave the earth you can’t take any of that with you but you can take with you the knowledge that you found happiness within your life and that is success…

I was thinking about how when my grandfather was my age, what we consider marks of success were unattainable for almost all black people. So how did women back then determine what a good man was when almost no men were going to college or working white collar jobs, especially since black people got married more often back then. How did the mindset change so fast between my grandfather’s generation and my mother’s?

sometimes the problem isnt learning how to deal with or not feel threatened by a successfull woman,the problem is sometimes dealing with a successfull woman who lacks respect for her less-than successfull mate. I once lived with a black female medical doctor at her home,the 1st 3 month were great then things turned for the worse when this hideous monster appeared,she started acting like she knew more than me on every issue even the ones I was well read on ,things like the operation of the penal system as I was a correctional officer with a 4yr degree in criminal justice.She also became insulting and demanding to have her way in every situation. NEEDLESS TO say I left ,she came running back to me after 6 month but I couldnt go back no matter how much money she had to help provide us with a comfortable living,since then she got involved with a downright unemployed mooching thug with 12 other girlfriends he juggles his time with frequently. I was left with a greater awareness as to why many black woman have trouble finding the right man.

Radar-Dreamer, lemme camel back on that fam….

if shes a TEAM PLAYER then kool!

but all that competition between us is counter-productive…

” Can A Successful Woman Find A Successful, Non-Threatened Man”…Maybe

But then again most women don’t know what they want or wants to be the ” man” and the woman at the same time in a relationship.

i wud luv to finda woman thats successfull s**t i live in new orleans there aint got many of them theres alotof bumms

lol

My black sistas can be soooooo phony. If the article reads “CAN A SUCCESSFUL MAN FIND A NON-LAZY AND HARDWORKING WOMAN,” They’d be in an uproar.

lol

you can…the men just have to know that they were strong before you came into the woman’s life and they’ll be strong when they leave. The women are not evil just because they have their own. They just want to see a man who can work for his own and be proud of it. Also the women who are successful usually like a man who does the simple things for her…makes it all worth while for her just for a simple flower or a kiss…

Men can be confident not arrogant about what they have…just give time and your heart (which is hard for many) and things will work out.

Here’s my question…

How many different ways are you all (Urban Daily, Hello Beautiful et al) going to phrase and post the same, tired played out issue?

Seriously, you all run this issue into the ground….

Blackplanet is not the first or only place where they talk about black male/female relationships. I remember a book called blackmans guide to understanding the blackwoman that came out when i was a kid and that i only knew about because in living color did a comedy skit revolving around giving women open handed slaps in the mouth, because that’s what the author said to do in her book. My mother even borrowed someone’s copy partly so that we could find where she said that. So basically same s**t different decade

A sucessful man or woman should build each other in a relationship. no matter who earns more or has a degree or who knows more, but if there’s a IMBALANCE of one wanting everything their way or the highway. then they’ll be some lonely assed singles who wished they could be more reasonable…….

Wow!!!! This is so so true!!! They are threatened by successful black women…. When I meet men who have longed to meet me after several months–and they eventually learn my educational background along with other intellectual factors, they kind of slidddeeee;). In all cases they have no shame in saying that education was the factor?? Strange but true. Why not just try to learn something instead of running?? There are no two people are equal. Good men and women are to back each other up no matter what “of course if you are in a relationship”.
If the relationship is worth it, you meet each other where they are at and grow from there.

And those men who are educated, in many cases have problems separating their six figure salary from the relationship. They will wine and dine you–but work work work. Not to mention they want you to join in with the work.

The strange thing is the ignorant men who were previously destroyed by ignorant woman, they try to project that bull on you while initiating every effort to bring you down. And if there is a kid involved, forget about it-the ignorant men want you to help them take care of some ghetto bastard baby–to make the mama happy in every effort to avoid child support.

This makes no sense. I now have my confirmation as to why beautiful intelligent educated women have problems. I guess we need to be ugliest as sin itself, scream, yell, cuss him out daily, keep our house dirty, be ignorant and try to work magic spells, throw out hands and point fingers along with all the negative stuff to have a relationship hahah.

Break out the violin.

I think this child needs to have more options in dating. Yes, African American men are beautiful. She should date other races to increase her chances in finding love.

YAWN…. This Topic is so cliche. Lets get real here, A successful woman and a Successful man are two diff things entirely in our age group and cultural background. First of all what do these women think success is? (for a man and then for a woman) Im sure it varies greatly. The successful type they seek would definitely be settling to even consider their 40,50 or even 60’000 salary as success, And the trumped up titles on the mediocre positions that are held by these women arent impressive. What do you truly bring to tha table that you are willing to give to the relationship and not keep in ur just in case bank account to give yourself the beyonceism that you dont need no NIGGA. I truly dont think real men are intimated of a woman who makes more, I think that women have a problem being the bread winner and have a man who is willing to accept that she may have to pay for dinner or clothing or the bulk of the bills while her man dosent seek to out do her. And for the record blk women. We are here and we are plentiful we just refuse to be disrespected w/ ur “DEMANDING OF RESPECT” when no one is disrespecting you. and the whole stereotypical attitude that u feel that you just cant let go of “Just In Case”…… This generation is doomed and thats just a fact. Love has definitely missed us and I pray my sons and future daughters get off this Nigga Shyt and get it together and find a way to coexist as Blk Man and Blk Woman who understand the roles that GOD has already laid out for us to have a loving relationship and companion in our lives as we all deserve just that.

P.S
Success cant compensate for a nasty attitude or unattractiveness. So i guess ya money and ya pet Chihuahua will have to do.

Just found this after posting…..

http://www.post-gazette.com/pg/10068/1041225-28.stm

I am a successful black woman and I date successful black men but I dont think its the status thats the problem. Its the attitude. Them junks think you have praise them for their success or you dont appreciate them and they can find someone who will. How do you praise someone who is on the same level as you? Im speaking from my experience. I show love, concern and care but the relationship never works out. As for me, I tell them FINE, the door is that way!

i like the comments here. i recently met this one girl who is a beautiful black woman. i noticed that i have never seen her with someone of color, so i spoke on it. she turned it into the normal “brothers aint shhh” rederick ive heard a million times. i think that black men at some point, have 2 be honest with themselves and realize that the succesful black man is an endangered species. i believe it has more to do with our perception of who is succesful. judging by BET standards, instant gratification is the focal point of modern success. our younger generation of black girls buy into this, and are ignoring the potential of a black man who is disconnected from the world of rap and sports.
on the other hand, the black man must realize that nothing of substance is gained without sacrafice, and your youth may be put on the shelf to insure a succesful future.

I just had this discussion the other night with my male classmates. Let’s say I come out of school making 100K and I fall in love with an artist who is making $25K, what then? My response is I would make him sign a prenup and we can keep it moving. I would marry him as long as he can hold an intelligent conversation, and brings somethng of value to the table. Yea I know the prenup. Well considering the fact that I plan to make a living for myself, I wouldn’t mind signing a prenup if my mate made way more than $100k because I did not help him make the money, just like the artist did not help me make my money. That’s just me. I’ve been taught that we should marry for love, but marriage is a contract. Just like a business you have to apply to get a license. That should tell you something right there. Marriage is a business because the first thing that is on the table during the divorce proceedings is what? MONEY. I think of myself as a business. You have mergers and acquisitions of companies ( a marriage.) So, what do both companies bring to the table? The goal of a M&A is to align yourself with a company that fits well into your portfolio no matter what it does to make money. The prenup is risk management. You hope for the best and plan for the worst. Trust and believe I will perform an financial analysis that will include annuities and projected cash flows to get a net present value for my mate. LMAO It may sound harsh, but hey. If we did not get the tax breaks that our laws allow, people would have no incentive to get married. Just like if you couldn’t gain equity in a home, how many people would actually buy homes? And now with the DC law of gay marriage, I can guarantee that friends that are girls will get married, and guys too (although they probably wouldn’t tell anyone.)

OK Ms. MBA, I mean Ms. Wrightt, don’t treat this real-life situation like a midterm essay from your Biz Strategy class. I laugh at the notion of protecting a $100K salary from your hypothetical starving artist husband with a pre-nup. Instead, apply your training to bring your husband’s income out of the pre-nup zone. Give him a crash course in entrepreneurship, develop his marketing strategy, lead his sales department, offer a tip or two to improve his efficiency, so when he creates that million dollar piece of art, a NPV analysis and a pre-nup won’t be necessary…

Now that’s out of the way, I believe the Bible addresses this issue in Corinthians. In short, whatever you believe in, find others who believe in it too. If that’s God, money, success, or whatever. I’ve dated enough to know we see others as more or less successful based on where we are individually. Ladies, if you want your success respected by men, find some who understand it. Because in some men’s eyes, they work just as hard as postmen or janitors as you do as teachers, nurses or bankers. Respect given is respect earned.

Eh, I’m more threatened by spiders than a successful woman.

It was a black woman who told me that, “There are 3 Groups of people a black man will have a hard time trying to deal with…Conservative White Men, Educted Black Women, and Fools, because HE is too blinded by his ideology, SHE is too blinded by her success, and the fool is just blind.” That woman was my mother and mother is always right. So I guess the question is, “Can a successful woman think BEYOND her ‘success’ so that she remains grounded?”

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Please!! This is one of those “made up” myths. Im a successful black man. Getting my third degree which is a M.S in Computer Science. Im working in my field as an IT Analyst and Im single. I have NEVER EVER in my life been intimidated by a successful black women. I’ve always wondered what people were talking about when they said this because its never been an issue for me. Again, I think this is just something that a rich black women who couldnt find a man made up one day.

Oh yeah, and just like the article said….I think that successful black women think that finding someone in their financial bracket or above it is the key to finding their mate. I just think that when they become successful, they think that they are “above” dating a white collar hard workin black man. Even black women with absolutely nothing to bring to the table in a relationship have a million requirements of who they will and will not date….I can only imagine the hang ups that a so called “successful” black women has.

To Mr. Well and Good or whatever, I never said that I wouldn’t help my starving artist fiance, I said I would make him sign a prenup because he did not help me make MY money. And if I did help him make that million dollar painting, best believe there will definately be a clause in that agreement for future earnings. LMAO

I have a Ph.D. and I’ve been married to my Ph.D. wife longer than either of us have those Ph.D.s. I don’t know one successful dude that’s got a problem with his wife’s success. If anything it makes things easier. That’s double the income, and a partner that you don’t have to worry about if things hit the fan. Also, successful women don’t try to “trap” you with dumb decisions on their parts. That said, I think women that accuse men of being intimidated by them typically have other problems like weight, bad attitude, emotional baggage, unrealistic preferences, etc. The “he was intimidated by me” rhetoric is just their way of deflecting attention from their own flaws. In other words it’s a defense mechanism. You want a man that’s good for you, know what you want and what you want wants in a woman. Be honest with yourself about whether you measure up to what you prefer. If you measure up, put yourself in a space where what you want actually has a chance to encounter you on a regular basis. Stop listening to your friends and use your common sense.

@CaliFemme23
First, I attract all kinds of black women, ghetto through siddity (or whatever people call that). What I said is not anger for black women, I’m simply stating what is going on, which is the same thing that MANY of the guys are saying here. There is no animosity it’s stating fact, but if it applies to you, then you’re going to see it as hateful statements. Your comments are the reason why many dudes feel they can’t have open dialogue with black women, you automatically categorize it as ‘hate’- due to your hangups with men- when all it is is telling YOU how you’re being seen for once. I specifically dated these so called ‘independent women’, with this degree, that degree, this job making whatever, blah blah, just to see if all they complain about is valid. That’s all hype is what I found, it’s just complaining but when you give that woman nothing to complain about, you find the issue is her.
Another thing, no one said they wanted white women, but I notice how you threw that in there, which is a defensive attitude, so you were touched by something I said. It’s ok, I have tissue and a shoulder for you. You, unfortunately, are not seeing the cries for black men asking black women to be themselves, stop this acting and get back to being what we know and love. Stop lumping me with that man that hurt you.

odoggz, Dont be such a hypocrite. You cant tell me that im hurt and that applies to me and I shouldnt lump you in a box either. Make up ya mind bruh, sujective or objective. I see many things/topics that dont apply to me but I find them hateful in ardour. I think the media is hateful when they trash chris brown and I might even speak up on it, that in no way has anything to do with me personally at all. Come on bruh what kind of ‘come back’ was that?
I categorized it as ‘hate’ coming from you and you alone because ANY article or story about black women in a semi or complete negative light you ALWAYS chime in with agreeance. And thats not me lumping you in a box, thats a fact. You always manage to point an ill finger at black women no matter what the topic. Just my observation based on YOUR posts dear. Now when you see me tearful, crying, hurt, cast-off or suicidal about some man that has hurt me then I encourage you to speak on it, OR if you see me point fingers at black men CONSTANTLY just based on these one sided, white folk written articles (yes, the same shyt you agree to all the time is crafted by white journalists/media). Thats why I never bite into those articles that might bash black men or point out this flaw or that one..including this particular article because they are written by a class of people who dont even know US as a people. I would only advise that you too take that into account..What is the REAL AGENDA when these articles are posted time after time on here….

Esoteric_Dredz, Your post is PURE GENIUS!

When are black people going to stop even biting into to these tired, day after day, Black man Vs. Black woman articles….No one has any answer to it because we are all different. Just get with that particular person that suits you and work it from there…

Dear Eolufemi. Please send me a hair sample so that I can clone you. :)

@CaliFemme23
Uhm when there are articles about men, which MOST ARE, then I will comment on them. I’ve done that quite a bit, and there are many people on this site, so I can see how you might have not read them, but that just let’s you know you didn’t read everything I wrote. So your ‘studying’ of me is not complete or accurate, therefore you must be doing with some sort of bias. Bias or fair assessment? Pick one, lady! Maybe, instead of pointing fingers at men who comment in these forums about negative things women are doing, you could point fingers at the site for bringing up the negative points of women. We’re only commenting where it’s fit. And just because we men decide we’re not going to baby you, rather criticize you as we get criticized, or would criticize ourselves, that’s just us respecting you as an equal. So you want equality or you want to be an entitled princess who we can’t ever tell about herself? Pick one, lady! Criticism comes with the territory when you’re to be responsible. Still, this is just the internet so if you are studying my posts, there is no rhyme or reason to half of what I say, honestly. It is only the internet and I’ll play devils advocate here and there.

FEMALES ARE OVERRATED NOW

odoggz, I like the ‘Pick one lady!’….

No ‘bias’ at all, for the most part I think youre a cool kat just based on this site. And my observation could very well be incomplete because I havent seen everything you have posted nor did I claim to. I already stated that…”FROM WHAT I HAVE SEEN”. You cant get on me there cuz I already ‘disclaimed’ it.
Trust me, I do point fingers at the site, which was my ultimate point to you as well as other men who choose to ‘bite’ down on the pittance that blackplanet throws out every other day negatively toward black women. I’m not saying its ‘foul’ or wrong to voice what you THINK is the problem with black women, I’m just saying sometimes SEE THROUGH the actual agenda of it presented here. When there is an article about black women with attitudes, not good mothers, unemployed, bytchy etc…Black men on here JUMP with bells on to say “YEAP, DAS RIGHT!!!”, when in actuality the WHITE media wants black men to do just that…believe the worst of the worst about us at every turn and at all costs. I’m sure you have noticed this as well…
I dont think women need to be ‘babied’ at all, and constructive criticism is ALWAYS a plus. But this site isnt constructive at all. Have you noticed they post the BEST, most lovable articles about interracial ‘love’, but when it comes to black people as a whole getting together its always..”Whats wrong with the black relationship”, “Why do black men feel threatened by black women”, “Black women its time to date outside your race cuz black men suck” etc…As well as they ONLY post GREAT articles about interracial couples, not ONE about ‘all black’ ones and trust me there are great ones out there to be seen and heard of. I do always want ‘equality’ as you put it, but only in the most constructive, helpful way. Now either you’re ‘with’ the ‘black love’ positively or content with JUST pointing fingers and criticizing negatively..there is a fine line to which side…Now Pick one man… ;-)

DISCLAIMER TO ALL: No I do not hate, despise or have anything against Odoggz…He’s cool folks

SIMPLE QUESTION: What does the average “successful” woman consider “successful”? Everybody seems to have their own personal gauge when it comes to that subject. I’m an Architectural draftsman of 15 years and have helped design some of the most noteworthy and famous structures in the world (Ex: Dallas Cowboys new stadium). To some, I’m STILL not considered successful because I don’t OWN the company. Some of these sisters need to get off of their high horses and come back to reality!!!

HUGHSMOOV, “Some of these sisters need to get off of their high horses and come back to reality!!!”

Nah bruh, maybe the sisters need to go find white men..you know like black men salivating and hunting for white women when they get successful…

DONT ATTACK! IM KIDDING!! IT WAS SUCH A GREAT OPPORTUNITY I COULDNT HELP MYSELF!!!

Why is this sh*t even up on here trying to start more battles between black men and women?? To The Urban Daily,dated construction workers, security guards, executives, brokers and mechanics too, so never had a problems with brothers’ incomes or type of work they do and neither did they had a problem with me.

Well their isn’t a scale on love and finance to real men and women only those that are shallow to weigh a relationship on finance,Well I’m an Computer Maintenance Technician/Self Taught Entreprenuer 10 yr.exp, when i met my beutiful wife i was into real estate and she worked at the cleveland food bank, when the housing market crashed and i wasn’t making any money she still love me for who i was, and not the money,i was out of work for 10 months and she held the fort down and never once complained about money, She justs said GOD want give you no more than you can handle,and we kept pushing, we’ve been together 4 yrs married for 1 and a half years, we’re best friends and still love 1 anothers company, it will never be a financial issue in our household, we know how to make ends meet and to never let money come between our love and happiness for 1 another/SO THEIRS NO REAL ISSUES BETWEEN A REAL MAM AMD WOMAN IF YOU EVER MET 1

It’s not the guys that make that decision, it all depends on what the women definds as “successful”? There are many guys out here like myself that’s not intimidated or threatened by a successful “black” woman, it’s usually the woman who makes a big deal out of her own success. Many self defined successful black woman have a chip on their shoulder or are too damn stuck up to even speak to a guy if she “thinks” he’s not on her level of success. A bank account doesn’t measure a mans success, where he came from and his accomplishments in life is. Yes there are men that are threatened but I don’t subscribe to the notion that every man is threatened or jealous of a woman that’s successful, I’m tired as hell of hearing this and frankly it’s makes all of us guys look like jealous weak a**holes and that’s not true for most of us. I’ve noticed this and i’m a pretty non bias person, I call it like I see it, but in my opinion with many sista that are successful, the more success they’ve achieved the worse their attitudes are and many of my female friends will confirm the same thing. Many successful sistas don’t want to do what the the other races of woman do to keep their men, many look at simple things in a relationship as demeaning and beneath them, that’s why many brothas that are successful eventually look to other races when we get tired of the same results from sistas. Why is it that there are so many things against black woman today? Not enough brothas, the highest group of single and never married, the never ending subject of bad attitudes, the list goes on and on, eventually you all need to stop complaining and having this victim mentality and start looking in the mirror and stop being so defensive when people are talking about simply what they are seeing from many of you.