Dear Blackman,

Can a woman be in love with two different men?

-LT

The Blackman:

Hi LT,

That circumstance would be a rare one but I believe anything is possible in life.

I feel that you can have love for two people but can only be in love with one person.
It’s very important to have a clear distinction of your feelings, not only in love but in lust. For example, some people think that they may be in love with someone but it is only pure sexual attraction. When the sexual attraction wears off then they feel they are not “in love” with that person anymore. It was never love in the first place.

In conversations that I’ve had with many women, I’ve found that in regards to relationships their emotions get very wrapped up in a person that they are involved with (as anyone’s emotions should), so I would see it being difficult to have those same emotions towards two people at the same time. I think you can be in love with someone and can be extremely compatible with someone else.

One must be clear on their feelings and what being “in love” really is. I feel being in love with two men at the same time is a very rare occurrence.

That’s my 99 Cents worth.