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Century Plaza HotelDear Blackman,

I am a single man who is looking for a lifetime partner. I have been on the dating scene (circus) for a while and a lot of women have been asking me what my salary is on the first date. I have asked some of these same women their age and they got offended. A lot of them respond with ‘you should know it’s rude to ask a woman her age. I am a traditional woman.’ When has it been traditional for a woman to ask a man what his salary is on a first date?

- Looking For Love In All the Wrong Places

The Blackman:

Hi Looking For Love In All the Wrong Places -

As far as I know, it has never been a tradition for women to ask what a man’s salary is on the first date. These women that you are going on dates with are being just as offensive as what they are accusing you of being. If a woman can ask such a personal question, she should be ready and willing to respond to a personal question. It’s a double standard they are using on you.

A “traditional” woman would not ask that type of question. She would want to get to know the kind of person that you are first, not ask you the Capital One motto: “What’s in your wallet?”

On a first date you’re supposed to get to know each other, but you don’t ask questions that you would find on a credit card application.

I hope you find a woman that you can pursue a lifetime partnership with.

Good Luck

TBM

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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/DAREALRECKLESS/ DAREALRECKLESS

    the FIRST question EYE ask is, “how many kids you got”. then i ask their age.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/FlyJones/ FlyJones

    I don’t think these days there is that much of a problem with asking a female her age….Especially with those of us who look much younger than we really are it’s cool to get the shock from the person when they find out lol….Maybe that’s just me but it’s not that taboo anymore in my opinion ;)
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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Kountry_Mayne/ Kountry_Mayne

    if a woman askes you what your salary is on the first date then walk away… if your dining at the dinner table get up leave your half of the bill and walk out. If a woman gets offended by you asking her what her age is then again leave her alone shes obviously up to no good and will prolly hold other things from you too in the long run. Where are you finding these women or girls at ? as far as i can tell they are no where near mature.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/DaintyJen/ DaintyJen

    ummm when has it ever been wrong to ask a persons age? I mean I understand if you’re asking an elder or somebody OLDER than u, then yes it would be rude to ask that. But on the dating scene, When has it ever been wrong to ask the age question? I mean somebody may want some kids, or how about those that lie about their age…people need to know stuff like that. Now the salary question is very rude, thats equivalent to asking a woman her weight. Those are things that PARTNERS learn later down the line. But yea I agree with Kountry_Mayne

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/dontbefakeplz/ dontbefakeplz

    we need a steve harvey mens edition. I mean i know it wont happen cuz men dont buy books, but we need one 2. More women would read probably but thats not a bad thing.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/_chiick/ _chiick

    what class-less ignorant woman would ask that on the FIRST date? its rare that i agree with a black male on this site, but if she asks such a stupid and ignorant question so early into knowing you, leave, its not worth your time.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/orinreborn2/ orinreborn2

    if a chick asked for my salary on the first date …. :-/

    she immediately becomes only jump off material after that

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/918ryder/ 918ryder

    only broke ppl get offended by that question.. nobody wants to be with a broke person from the jump especially when they dont plan on upgrading ..so why not ask

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/burgstyle82/ burgstyle82

    LOL I wish a woman would. My next question would be, “Why, how much do you charge?”.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jan457boo/ jan457boo

    First, a real woman know ur worth. through conversation,your home,your work schedule. usually real men with money don’t deal with women who
    asked those questions. Brothers, please stop trying to save a women and
    find a women who has her own. u and her both would be much happier.When
    paper is not the issue in a relationship. EVERYONE IS HAPPY….

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Anthropological/ Anthropological

    my next question would be “how much do you weigh?”

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/loreanashli/ loreanashli

    lol @ Anthropological & burgstyle82.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/RecksJr/ RecksJr

    I’m a be honest, there is no question that’s rude. Asking ignorant questions, now that’s rude. The man asked you a simple question, “what’s your age?” How rude is that? I don’t care if you look 17, 28, or 45 in the face, tell the man your age. There’s alot of men being put behind bars because of this foolish situation. She say she 22, but she’s 16 with a mature body. Sounds crazy cause it’s true and it’s still happening. Almost happened to me once. So women, cut the b.s. and be honest. Other than that, the girls, yes girls, you were dating are money hungry. If they ask you how much is your salary before they get your name, you better dip out of there fast. Don’t say nothing, don’t hesitate, just get up, turn around, and walk away.

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