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My Boyfriend Suffers From Erectile Dysfunction.How Do I Handle This?

Written by Ask The Black Man on July 22, 2009 12:09 pm

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Dear TBM,

I just turned 32 years old and I am dating a man that is 47 years old.  We have a wonderful, passion-filled, intimate relationship.  The only issue in our relationship is that he suffers from Low Testosterone (LowT), which causes a form of Erectile Dysfunction(ED.) He has a hard time getting and maintaining an erection suitable for intercourse. I love this man with all my heart and the only problem is I cannot experience the “BIG O”. I am a very sexual person. I do not want to loose this man because of this. Please give me some advice on how to handle this.
-DS

The Black Man:

Hi DS,

It has to be tough for you to go through this especially with someone you love very dearly. I would suggest for him to go to a physician and also sex therapist/counselor. There may be things in his diet that can help him through this.

He may not be eating properly. He should make sure to eat a lot of live green foods. Also he should exercise on a regular basis. That helps produce hormones in your body.

Also something like this can be very mental so going to see a sex therapist can be helpful to break this down and really get to the crux of the matter. His confidence level between the sheets most likely is sub par right now and that needs to be raised (no pun intended).

If none of that is effective then he should check with his physician to see if he is able to take a product like Viagra or Cialis. I would make this last resort is all else fails.

You can also look into some natural herbal supplements that may help as well.

Good Luck.

TBM

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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Mandynyc124/ Mandynyc124

    Yeah, good luck!
    Dude, needs to work that out.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/burgstyle82/ burgstyle82

    Come on now. They make all these hard on drugs and dude doesn’t know what to do….

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/BIG_BLOCK_HEMI/ BIG_BLOCK_HEMI

    WOMEN SUFFER FROM THE SAME THING ACCEPT THE PERSON AS HE OR SHE IS THEN IF NOT UR JUST IGNORANT

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Mandynyc124/ Mandynyc124

    Now what is the world does that have to do with being ignorant??? HUH???

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    smoke weed

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/IamIntriguing/ IamIntriguing

    Exactly @ burgstyle82.

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    I don’t have a problem in this area…lol

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MANHOE69/ MANHOE69

    Workout and get rest and adjust your eating habits. The knowledge will show quickly and you’ll smile later.
    $357.15..Out!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Kountry_Mayne/ Kountry_Mayne

    just turned 32 ? dating a 47 year old…. must be the money… anywho… that sucks… maybe she should date younger.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/DaintyJen/ DaintyJen

    pills, exercise/proper eating, therapy…they forgot TOYS! hehe

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/DAREALRECKLESS/ DAREALRECKLESS

    i think BIG_BLOCK_HEMI was trying to say that women up in age,and SOME not in age, tend to have a “moisture problem”. i THINK that’s what he is saying.
    as for the topic, does his tongue NOT work?

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Msz_DeEvIouz689/ Msz_DeEvIouz689

    ill leave the dude, see ya lata….

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    maybe it’s time for an endocrinologist.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/upgrade45/ upgrade45

    Girl Don’t waste your time. Make sure he is being faithful to. I dated one and I felt the same way you feel. I tried all types of stimulus , creams. herbs , Cialis, juices . and veggies. Yes he used the tongue well. But the Negro had psychological issues and I couldn’t help him. So look out for the warning signs he might have some serious beware.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/2good2bsingle/ 2good2bsingle

    I must say that I’m refreshed to see yet another serious and helpful topic being discussed here. Not another “Guess what Bey-Once is wearing to the Ball?” Or some other nonsense. I wanna see topics like this one much more often. Good Job! Oh! And thank you to all who responds to this article in a mature manner! ;-)

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/gymiinye/ gymiinye

    One visit to the urologist, and that will be the end of your problems sister. what you waiting on lol! Also, the healthy diet and exercise that TBM suggested, is an excellent idea. But the Urologist got the remedy for you, well for him. Also tell him to get checked for DIABETES

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    what he need to do is kegals for men by puttin his fingers up his ass and squeezing that will help him out

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    put him on that viagra

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/VA_QT88/ VA_QT88

    This is very good advice! I think my boyfriend is going through the same thing but he is only 19. Does anyone know if ED is something older men experience or does it not have an age limit? Im going to make sure he eats a more balanced diet but the whole sistuation really puts a damper in the more physical aspect of our relationship.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/AskTheBlackMan/ AskTheBlackMan

    @2good2bsingle-Thanks. The goal is to have a good productive discussion in the comment section as well as try to give the best advice possible.

    @VA_QT88-It’s more prone for people who older but that can happen if a man is really stressed out as well. Their minstate is really not on sex.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/AskTheBlackMan/ AskTheBlackMan

    @gymiieye-Urologist and getting checked for diabetes is a good as well.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/mizz214/ mizz214

    I admire you because I totally would have cut it off a long time ago. I can’t be in a relationship where the sex is bad. He would have to call me once he figures out how to get it up. I’m sorry, it’s the Taurus in me.

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