Antonia “Toya” Carter began her journey to success on the BET hit reality show “Tiny and Toya” where she wanted more out of life than being called one of Lil Wayne’s baby mamas. She has now opened a clothing store, become an author and has her very own reality show “Toya: A Family Affair” which aired on April 12th at 10pm eastern time on BET.
TUD: What was the point when you decided to step outside of being known as Lil Wayne’s baby mama?
When you’re living in someone’s shadow and there is much more to your life than that. The [new] reality show came about from an idea me and my friends had about a show not based on being anyone’s baby mama or ex- wife but just a family show. I met James Dubose and he helped make the idea come to life. Tiny and Toya became one of BETs highest rated shows because it was real and we shared our family drama and opened up. We surprised people because they thought we were going to do a show about being someone’s baby mama.
What do you have to say about the negative comments about the reality show?
People gone talk about you if you doing good or bad. As long as the people are talking it don’t matter to me. I try not to focus on the negative things people say. I am a very positive person and I like to put my energy into positive things because if you put that out there you get it back. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.
What caused the comment on twitter about the 8 year old boy being gay the other day?
I was just being real. At that very moment I was with my daughter at the passport office and I seen an eight year old boy who was very flamboyant and I had never seen anything like it. I didn’t grow up in a household with anyone gay so I don’t know that people believe they are born that way. Some people just don’t have the knowledge but I am willing to learn. I didn’t mean any harm by the comment and I wasn’t trying to judge or hurt anyone. I was just surprised.
How is being a stylist and running your clothing store G.A.R.B.?
Now I am doing styling through my store. I am the buyer for G.A.R.B. and I pick out all the clothing and pretty much everything you see me in, I style myself. I always had a passion for fashion. I love styling. It’s fun and G.A.R.B. is doing great. I plan on expanding into different cities in the future.
What’s the main focus on your new BET reality show “TOYA: A Family Affair?”
My show is about my family uniting so it is very emotional and there is a lot of drama. A lot of things were held in over the years so there is a lot of shocking and new things I got to know about my family that I haven’t been around in a long time.
How is your relationship with your mother Anita and your brothers? How are you dealing with being the provider for your family now?
Great! The relationship is growing. It gets tough but I know the overall picture I want to see at the end of the day. I want to see everyone on the same page and if that takes me pushing to get it done then that is what I am going to do.
Why did you decide to make your book “Priceless Inspirations” a memoir and not a tell all?
That is not my character and I am not the type of person to talk about the relationship I once had with someone. Like I said, I am a very positive person and if I am going to write a book and inspire someone, I am going to do that with my own pain and struggle. I been through a lot in my life and I decided to turn my journal into a book. Even though Lil Wayne maybe featured in my book, it still falls back on me and the situations that I been in. He is included in the book because he is apart of my life.
How long have you kept a journal?
I kept a journal for a long time. It was a way for me to express myself. I didn’t have anyone to talk to about things like a break up, if my feelings was hurt, or things that I went through when I was pregnant with my daughter so I would take to my journal. I took highlights out of my journal and turned it into chapters for my book.
When did you realize that you were in love with Memphitz?
I realized when I saw that we had a lot of things in common. He is a great friend, a family man, my spiritual side and I realized he was everything that I wanted in a man. This is what made me realize that he was the one. I believe that you have to have a friendship first and we still have that friendship in our relationship. He is a great guy that is very supportive.
I remember the media trying to put out negative headlines about you and Tiny’s relationship. So how are things between you and Tiny?
I just got off the phone with her and she is actually coming over tonight. It’s hard to find friends like Tiny, we are great friends. We gone be friends regardless no matter what negative things people stir up and say, that is still my big sister.
What does Toya want to do in the future?
I plan on expanding my brand. I am always thinking of different things to do, hopefully one day I will get a part in a movie. There are a lot of different things I plan to push for, I am not just comfortable in being a reality star and author, although I am blessed to have that platform but I want to continue to grow and do other things.
Can we expect any wedding bells for you and Memphitz in the future?
You will have to tune in and see tonight April 12th @ 10pm eastern time on BET.
How do you feel now after a successful reality show, book and opening your own clothing store?
I feel blessed and highly favored and no one can kill my joy because they didn’t give it to me.