Dear Blackman,
I am a married woman and I love my husband very much. He is a great man. He treats me like queen and he takes care of the family. The one element that has been missing as of late is the spark in our sex life. We don’t do it as much as we use to and when we do it’s pretty routine. It’s nothing special like it used to be. Can you suggest anything to change this?
–Steph Lover
The Blackman:
Hi Steph Lover,
This is common in some marriages. Between work and taking of the family. Your sex life can be reduce due to more responsibilities and/ or choosing to sleep instead of having sex. Having a family may slow down the spontaneous sex life.
A suggestion is to move it out of your own bedroom. Plan a weekend getaway or even a overnight stay somewhere. It can be good to get outside of your element which can help rekindle the spark. Let the grandparents or someone else take care of the family. Bring the sexy outfits that he likes and tell him to bring what you find to be sexy.
As far as in your own bedroom, it may sound weird but if you are both busy plan in your schedules times where the focal point is you and him. Another thing could be to once and while call him a work and let him know that you can’t wait for him to get home and let him know somethings that you would like to him and to be done to you (smile).
Last but most importantly, bring this up to him so it is clear that this is a concern to you. It may be something that he did not realize has changed, and could easily make amendments to make it better.
I hope it works out.
TBM
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