Dear TBM,
I confessed to reading a male friends email in May. I invaded his privacy and I was 100% wrong. I have asked for his forgiveness many times over and he won’t even speak to me. Why is it so hard for a black man to forgive? I am not asking him for anything, I only want to know that he can forgive me. If I had not confessed he would have never known I had been spying on him. I want our friendship to be honest so I came clean. I accept the consequences, but will he ever get over it and forgive me?
–Ms. Wanda
The Blackman:
Hi Ms. Wanda,
First I would like to acknowledge that even though you did an action that was inappropriate you were honest enough to admit it, especially since you could have gotten away with it without saying anything.
However, I don’t feel it is fair to generalize and say that this circumstance relates to Black men not being able to forgive. Anyone, no matter what race, creed, or gender would have a problem with you going through their e-mails without their consent. I am confident to say that there would be many people, that are not Black Men, that would not forgive you for it.
My question is: has your friendship not been honest beforehand? It is a bit uncommon for someone that is just a “friend” to be snooping through another friends’ e-mail.
Usually invading e-mail privacy occurs when someone has feelings for someone or they suspect them of something.
I don’t know what information you found out in his e-mails but if it was something really personal, it could
take someone some time to forgive someone.
I am an avid believer that if two people are true friends, the hands of time will mend things eventually and make things better. Give it some time and space to see what happens.
Good Luck.
TBM
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