Dear Black Man,
I’ve been in a long distance relationship for 3 years.
We see each other during our off days. I love this man. I went to visit him two weeks ago and he seemed very distant even when he was touching me. His mind seemed to be in another place and when we were making love it was like he was just doing it because there was a woman sleeping next to him. He has totally changed but when I ask him if there is a problem he says there is no problem and that he still loves me.
Here is the real problem, I recently found out that I am pregnant with his child. I went there to tell him but I couldn’t because there is no communication anymore. I feel that he doesn’t love me anymore. What should I do? Should I tell him that I’m pregnant?
-Veronica
The Black Man:
Hi Veronica,
If this just happened on his recent visit to him and you did not feel this way then I would not jump to the conclusion that he does not love you anymore.
Do you both normally communicate well? Some men tend to internalize things when faced with an issue(s). He may have just had something on his mind that he is going through that may not pertain to you and he is going through his motions. That happens a lot especially when dealing with career and finances. Give it a little time and he may open up to you and things may change for the better.
As far as telling him you are pregnant, you should definitely let him know. Just choose a good time. If his spirit seems a bit more upbeat then let him know or even better, you should let him know the next time you see each other. Hopefully that is sooner than later. Important news such as this is best to be told in person.
Don’t fret and stay positive.
Good luck and I hope this advice helps.
TBM
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